I'm on a yahoogroup that right now is embroiled in constant bickering. Now I'm not adverse to some squabbles as people generally are trying to figure things out and it is a real struggle through process which can get frustrating. However....when people are just concerned with "winning" making others stop talking back, making sure they save "face" and don't look weak..this is where that old trickster-devil ego makes his appearance. The belief that we are separate..that we might be all alone and need to protect our views...the idea that if we look weak others will beat on us...the idea of control that you MUST protect or chaos shall rule...is just a lie. Let it go. Know that people change opinions on things..that people grow no matter how long it may take or how many lifetimes! have a little faith that we can disagree and that it's not the end of the world. Know that your friends will stay your friends...and your false face friends may leave dependant on which way the wind blows. Know what matters. It doesn't matter if you "win" or if someone else does. The only thing that matters is that we grow....we are honest with ourselves truly and that you have the self-esteem to be able to look like a complete prat and laugh along with others at the learning process. Strutting around puffing your chest out ...or slapping the ruler down on a youngsters hand does little but makes you look like your own importance matters more than anything. Be brave enough to lose, be brave enough to learn something, be brave enough for peace and love to matter and faith in the learning process matter MORE..than anything else. Just my advice and opinion. I try to follow my own advice...don't always attain it...but I do try. Blessings.