Loving someone enough to let them fall

Maybe I've written before about this..I don't know. A person that I care about deeply is addicted..not to a substance but to a person. I see her getting pulled down by attaching herself to someone who does not return her love...to a person who is an addict himself and only dragging her down with him. She believes that she has point where she will say "no more" but that point is really far off in the distance it seems. I worry sometimes that she will hurt herself in the meantime ..hurting herself to a degree that she cannot repair so easily...yet...she is an adult...she is fully a person in her own right and can make her own decisions. It hurts me to see her go through this but I can't avoid her either as I am one of the few that will listen to her woes lately. I don't want to leave her without anyone else to talk to...so I guess I am sort of stuck here...trying to trust that all will work out for the best...but still trying to keep out of it and let go.
I can pray...at least I can pray.

Our gay adventures.

Back from trip...happy to be back. Prairies are beautiful and serene but they are not the ocean and mountains. Travelling twelve-thirteen days in a car with a friend is a test of anyones friendship indeed...especially when you get older and set in your independant ways. We've bickered and realized that it was just hard to have your "freedom" curtailed by another always "there"..unless that "other" is a romantic partner but even then they each need their own space at times. I learnt my tolerance and intolerance. Thankyou for taking me along Barry. I love you as always..your friend, B.
ps. I think Barry and me will be the only ones to get the title of this post. :)

My boyfriends father

I met my boyfriends father in 2006 in San Diego California. Harry is a remarkable person, not only a Nobel Prize winner but in his eighties, still working as a Professor in a University. I took to Harry right away with his gentle humour based on puns, his joy of life, his interest in learning and music and best of all his close relationship with his son, my boyfriend. I think we had a mutual admiration society there..and it continues now. Harry told me that he considers me his honorary daughter and I beamed at that. I didn't have the best relationship with my ex-in-laws and was not expecting a beautiful thing to happen with Harry...but was happily surprised that it did. Thanks Harry, thanks for giving me another father to send father's day cards to...to be embraced by another family in such acceptance and love and for giving me such a beautiful boyfriend as well! Happy "early" Father's day. love Ravy